Uplift or Keep It Moving, Sis.



That is one thing that I am certain many twenty-somethings have recently learned. We always used to wonder how our parents could pinpoint out the people who they knew weren’t our friends before we could and it’s simply because they had lived and gone through similar life experiences with "friends" like the ones they warned us about. One of the main beauties of ‘growing’ through life is the experiences that show us who our true friends are.

High school was definitely a trying time for me. Yes, I enjoyed my time in high school but it was very poignant. Unfortunately, I had let some negative people get rather close to me and it was very draining. Before I knew it, I started to harbor the same negative thoughts and feelings as those people (without even noticing it). For some reason, I couldn't shake the feeling of having this permanent dark cloud hovering over my head. After a while, those closest to me began to notice that my always-positive-and-joking demeanor had begun to fade. I was becoming a “Negative Nancy” to say the least and after a few months of taking on this not-so-great persona, I decided it was time to make some changes...starting with the people who were bringing me down. I knew for sure that I didn't want to become this person for others that some people were for me. 


Recently, I stumbled upon a viral post of a friend exposing her so-called friend for being negative after telling her about her new job opportunity. This situation reminded me of a certain someone that I used to call a friend. 


After seeing this and thinking back to a time when I was surrounded by people like this, I began to wonder --- If your friend isn’t there to uplift you, they need to keep it moving. Plain and simple. 


We need to surround ourselves with more people that uplift us. 

morally or spiritually elevating; inspiring happiness or hope.

The people you surround yourself with, you become. The energy that they exude, will be the energy that you exude. Energy is contagious and regardless of your individual strength, you are not immune to a constant surrounding of negative energy. Just like everything else in your life, your friendships need updating. They need to be reassessed from time to time to determine if they are still working for you in your life. 

When I sit and think about an old friend of mine, the situations that stand out are ones in which that person would constantly be unnecessarily negative (complaining was like a full-time job for this person). It is astounding, yet notable, how the negativity trumps the good times that I had with that friend. This just goes to show that negativity has a long-lasting effect on others (so please...don't be that friend)....your poor attitude could be pushing people out of your life. 


Ask yourself: Do your friends uplift you, or bring you down? Are they critical, or complementary? Ideal friendships provide support when you’re down, fun when you’re up, wisdom when you’re lost, and everlasting positivity. 

These days, I aspire to surround myself with people who inspire me to reach greater heights and those who acknowledge my strengths when I fail to do so. Avoiding those who try to make me feel inadequate or difficult.


I also aspire to become someone who uplifts others...avoiding projecting negativity onto them.


Don’t get me wrong, there are some days when I am not in the mood or am simply down (it’s natural). However, during rare times like this, I tend to engage in spiritual solitude..bringing myself to the people I love when I can be more of a positive force in their lives. 


Paying attention to how your friends make you feel is important. Paying attention to how you make your friends feel is of equal importance. 

If they are constantly dishing out negativity, it might be time to tell that person to keep it moving.


Protecting your peace is one of the most important things that you can do in life. So, if you need to love someone from a distance, in order to keep yourself sane and swarmed with positivity, do just that. 

Remember, you are who you hang with and the energy that you put out into the universe will return back to you eventually. So please, don’t let the Negative Nancy’s in your life bring you down. Most importantly, don’t become a Negative Nancy. 






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