I’m sure that everyone remembers (and can quote) numerous scenes from Mean Girls. One scene that has always lingered in my mind was when the committed math teacher tells Cady, “I’m a pusher...I push people.” Recently, with starting my blog and getting closer and closer to another graduation, I have come to find out that I am surrounded by people who push me to be the best me. I've also realized that I am a pusher as well. Is being a pusher a bad thing? Or is it simply a form of support and motivation?
In the film, Tina Fey's character is the math teacher who pushes Cady into doing the Mathletes, pushed her husband into law school (who is now divorcing her) and pushed herself into working three jobs. Cady ends up being upset with Ms. Norbury for pushing her. But, what’s so wrong with people pushing you to be the best you that you can be?
For me, I want all of my family, friends, and loved ones to do and be the best that they can be. Now, I’m not going to be overbearing as if I’m their parents, boss, or their college professor — but I am going to push them like Ms. Norbury did Cady.
When I use the term “push” I am talking about a motivational push…to do something that can be beneficial (not a physical push).
In retrospect, if I find myself unsure on how to advise or help someone, I will leave the situation alone (so that I won’t be credited for messing up their life).
After chatting with some of my close friends, we realized that there is a lack of “pushers” in friend circles today. We live in a world where people overuse the “I don’t need anyone,” slogan. In reality, everyone can use someone positive in their corner. I like to think that I am that person for some of my friends — someone that will be there rooting for them and pushing them towards something great.
With the lack of genuine and fulfilling friendships, it is important to appreciate the Ms. Norbury’s in your inner circle (if you have one, two, or many of them). They are pushers because they care and want the best for you. If the “pushing” seems excessive…tell them, don’t write them off in your own personal 'burn book'...like Cady did her caring math teacher because in the end….you’ll realize their simply unrecognized gems.